Couples, Money, and Working Together, Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian of Couples Synergy
Dr. Ray & Jean Kadkhodaian are relationship experts and cofounders of their successful counseling center. After working with thousands of couples, they created a unique approach to coach couples to have amazing relationships, called Couples Synergy. They cohost the podcast, Couples Synergy: Real Couples, Real Stories… Real Relationships. As a married couple, they believe that they cannot teach it unless they live it. They help couples create the relationship of their dreams, with the partner they fell in love with!
- Working together in previous jobs and now in counseling settings
- What money meant to them when they were young, including power and control
- The marshmallow experiment and how trust plays a role in the notion of delayed gratification
- Couples fight more about sex and money than any other topic
- How they had to create their own approach to money as a couple
- Allowing a partner who enjoys spending money to pay for things
- Allowing a partner who prefers to manage money to work on the budget
- The relationship between responsibility and resentment
- The freedom of living only on cash even if forced to do so due to bad or no credit
- Settling debts with creditors
- Remembering the most important things when finances get stressful
- Being a young, single Mom, joining the military, and going to college
- How a log in the wilderness can bring greater joy than a scratched dining room table
- Disconnecting from your parents’ view of money and trusting in your spouse or partner
- Accepting the reality of life rather than pretending money solves our most important challenges
- Bouncing checks, paying fees, and stepping away for a trip to Mexico
- Learning lessons rather than regrets
- Making decisions quickly but changing mind slowly
- The power of a faith and belief system
- Not making decisions from a place of fear
- Money is symbolic, so you need to learn to detach from those meanings
- Blending of finances to create an “us” in relationships
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